ARE YOU FINDING ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS DIFFICULT?
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Perhaps you're not sure that good enough for someone to love you after what your last partner said. Maybe you find it difficult to "open up" in relationships after being hurt. Or perhaps you just don't trust yourself in a relationship any more.
The internet has changed the way we date, and it's estimated that 14% of relationships now start online in the UK alone. But meeting people online can be difficult. People edit their photos and polish their profiles to give the best version of themselves, and frequently, with no friends in common, you can only go off what you're being told.
So how can you tell if you're seeing the "real" person, or just a "front" that someone is putting up?
Meeting someone in person can often be just as difficult; how do you know if you're trusting someone too quickly, or being too closed off? How do you know what to do?
Even if you find yourself in a relationship, you may find yourself worrying about being needy, or clingy, or appearing too aloof and not seeming to care.
IT CAN BE HARD TO MOVE ON FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS
We all carry romantic "baggage" - previous experiences that dictate how we act in the present. And our wonderful unconscious minds simply want to protect us because we don't want to be hurt again, and it would be daft not to learn from the past.
But learning from your past, and letting it dictate your future, are two different things. I your past is dictating your future, it's going to be hard to be happy.
BUT MOVING FORWARD INTO THE FUTURE ISN'T ALWAYS EASY
Felling insecure and unsure in a new relationship is nature. You're learning about someone and someone is learning about you. Will they like you when they really know you? What if they don't...or more frighteningly, perhaps, what if they do?
Knowing your new partner isn't your ex is easy. But treating them like they're not your ex can be difficult. If you're catastrophizing about the future based on your past, it's going to be tricky to move forward.
Hypnotherapy can be a fast and effective way to help you process previous relationships and put negative feelings and emotions about the past behind you. That way, you won't drag them into your new relationship. You'll be able to see your new relationship for what it is, not how it is coloured by your past.
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I appreciate that there are lots of therapists to choose from, and that it can seem very difficult to know to trust with your emotional health.
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As a Cognitive Hypnotherapist, I'm trained in a wide range of techniques to help you break free from your unwanted thoughts and learnt behaviour.
I believe all my clients are unique, so deserve the best, personalised help. I specialise in treating you, not the label your issue has been given!
Maybe we'll use classic hypnotherapy techniques, where you'll be guided in a deep state of relaxation so that you can let go of your preconceptions and behaviour and realise that there is a different, more helpful way of behaving.
Or maybe we'll use eye movement based techniques to encourage a state of emotional change.
Perhaps we'll use provocative questioning to help you break down what's happening so that you can see a different course of action.
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If you choose to come and see me for help, you are free to book however many sessions you like, but I recommend at least two sessions for maximum benefit.