In-person anxiety therapy Spalding, Lincolnshire & online anxiety therapist worldwide

Romantic Relationship Help from Vic:
When your heart wants love, but your anxiety wants drama (because dating is difficult enough without anxiety playing matchmaker)
Modern dating's tricky enough without anxiety turning it into an Olympic sport. Whether your ex left you feeling as secure as a sandcastle at high tide, or you've built emotional walls visible from space, let's talk about getting your love life back on track.
Important: If you're in a violent, coercive or controlling relationship (either romantically or with a family member), please call:
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Police: 999
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Refuge (for women): 0808 2000 247
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Respect (for men): 0808 8010 327
What's your dating drama?
The "meeting in person" crisis
When every coffee feels like a job interview
You're there playing it so cool polar bears would get chilly. Meanwhile, your inner critic's doing a running commentary that would put sports announcers to shame. Every word is getting vetted by your anxiety before it leaves your mouth, and you've mapped out more escape routes than a professional bank robber.
The "online dating" disaster
Where everyone's apparently an adventurous CEO with a yacht
You've got RSI from all the swipey-swipey. Every profile looks like an audition for Love Island, and you're doing more background checks than MI5. Meanwhile, you can't help wondering if actually they're all axe murderers hiding behind those carefully filtered photos.
The "actually dating" dilemma
When the real fun begins
Time to play your anxiety's favourite game: "Second Guessing Everything!" Are you being too clingy... or not clingy enough? Is double texting still a crime? Should you play it cool, or show that you care?
Your anxiety's going into overdrive and you've not even updated your social media profile to "it's complicated" yet.

Getting your love life back (without taking anxiety's dating advice)
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Reflect... but don't dwell
Sort thought that emotional baggage - keep the lessons and dump the drama.
(Though anyone who puts milk in first when making tea still can't be trusted) -
Reconnect with you
Remember that person who existed before relationships? Whether it's making sourdough or taking up salsa - do something just for you. No swiping allowed. -
Set those boundaries
Creating healthy boundaries with your ex is like building a fence - keeps the good stuff in and the nonsense out.
(Yes, that means unfollowing them on social media)
REAL WORDS FROM REAL PEOPLE
"You are the bee's knees"
Mandy S.

How I can help - without making you write poetry about your feelings
No sitting cross legged changing mantras, or writing love letters to your inner child (as tempting as that sounds)
And I definitely wont' make you stare into a mirror repeating "I am a goddess" until you believe it (or go insane). Instead, we'll work on getting you back to being you - you know, that person who had a personality before relationships started defining you.
We might use:
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Provocative Change Works therapy (to help you see through your anxiety's "helpful" dating advice)
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Integral Eye Movement Therapy (to help you process past hurts)
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Coaching and conversational hypnotherapy (to help you stay calm when your message's showing as read, but they've not replied and it's been 30 seconds already.)
Ready to take back your love life?
Getting started is simpler than explaining to your gran when you're still single:
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Free 15 minute chat (no relationship status required)
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Two initial sessions (£99 each, 90 - 120 minutes)
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More if you need them, but no pressure
Available in person in Spalding or online worldwide (because dating drama doesn't respect geographical boundaries)
DEEP & MEANINGFUL MOMENT:
"In the process of letting go you'll lose many things from the past, but you'll find yourself."
Deepak Chopra, who clearly never had to unfollow an ex on social media